Good Advice: Is it wrong to leave my 85-year-old mother alone on Thanksgiving?

Plus, how often should I wash my sheets?
Good Advice
November 2, 2026

Welcome to your weekly roundup of New York Times advice columns.

This week, we heard from a reader deciding between spending a holiday with an older parent or on a getaway with their spouse, the mother of a bride who got pranked and a condo co-owner in a tight spot. Click on the links to see what our columnists advised.

SOCIAL Q’S

How to navigate awkward social situations.

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Miguel Porlan

The officiant mooned the guests at my daughter’s wedding. What do I do now? →

FRUGAL TRAVELER

Tips for how to navigate the world on a tight budget.

An airport terminal scene with people and their luggage during the holidays. A tall Christmas tree, a wreath and a sign for "Elevator to All Levels & Bridge to Central Parking" are shown.

Charles Krupa/Associated Press

Holiday travel costs are soaring. How can I save some money? →

ASK REAL ESTATE

Help navigating the market, the financing, the neighbors.

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Nadia Pillon

No one wants to serve on the condo board. Now what? →

ASK VANESSA

Our chief fashion critic answers your burning style questions.

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Simbarashe Cha/The New York Times

Purple is everywhere. Is it a coincidence or a conspiracy? →

ASK WIRECUTTER

How to make the most of your stuff in real life.

The L.L.Bean Pima Cotton Percale Sheet Set and the Cultiver Linen Sheet Set, our picks for best sheets for hot sleepers.

Connie Park/NYT Wirecutter

How often should I wash my sheets? →

THE ETHICIST

Guidance through life’s trickiest situations and moral dilemmas.

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Illustration by Tomi Um

Is it wrong to leave my 85-year-old mother alone on Thanksgiving? →

Your advice

Nearly 1,500 Times readers have weighed in on The Ethicist. Here’s what they had to say. You can join the conversation, too.

MORE GOOD ADVICE

I think I know why my nephew has had so many problems in life. Should I tell him? →

Is there a healthier way to eat Halloween candy? →

A plastic day of the week pill box is filled with colorful candy in each compartment.

A.I. companies can read your private chats. How can you protect your privacy? →

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Thanks for reading.

Good Advice is written by Whet Moser and edited by Talya Minsberg.

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